How to Approach A Girl at the Library

Time to dig deep into the mailbag and see if y’all can stump the Lance-man! Today’s big test… how the hell do I talk to a girl in the quietest of places… the library!

Let this Game begin.

Question:

Hey Lance!

I got a question for you and your staff!

Every day I’m sitting at a library, looking at these cute women, but without a clue on how to make the perfect start-up and getting a flirt going.

I know what you say about body language - first impression and so on - but that’s not my main
problem here. As I see it: without being “allowed” to talk (’cause it’s a library!), how can I without being too obvious - neither to the girl I’m approaching nor to the rest of the people in the library where all the other “potentials” are sitting, watching- get her outside the quiet zone for a while with me, so I can make my play going???

If you have just have ONE good line for me to get women OUT of the library, without being
noticed by the others nor being too aggressive towards her, I probably think I would do it
EVERY DAY of the week!! Seriously!

I get the eye contact with a lot of them, but I don’t have a clue on how to go from there!

Can’t wait to hear from you!

Sincerely,

Claus, A fan from Denmark, Scandinavia!

Answer:

Hey Claus,

I see that Hamlet’s indecisiveness was all just bad P.R. for Denmark. You are one Dane who knows just what you want.

Now you just need to know how to get it!

It’s really interesting that you talk about seeing hoties in a library, and having no clue how to go about attracting her.

Why? Because that is EXACTLY how I started over 10 years ago.

See, I wasn’t born a ladies’ man. I wasn’t always smooth and totally fulfilled in my relationships with women. Matter of fact, like a lot of guys I knew, I was pretty damn unhappy. And I couldn’t find anything to help me change it.

There wasn’t anyone I could ask about getting better with women. I bet you know what I’m talking about. It’s like there are guys who do well with girls, and then there’s everyone else, and the guys who do well can’t tell you how they do it.

That’s where I was. Just stuck, wanting so bad to be able to go up to those girls and get them feeling good, feeling attracted, and show them how happy they could be with me. But I couldn’t figure out the first step.

But that changed when I started to take a chance. See, I didn’t have any killer techniques, but I had stubbornness. I was going to keep trying till I figured it out.

So I would sit and look at the girl, and imagine just how nervous I would feel walking up slowly, how nervous I would feel standing in front of her, how nervous I would feel talking to her, just knowing that every single person in the library was watching. I would sit and feel that nervousness. I would let it build, until I knew that was as nervous as I could get… and then I would just hold it. I’d get up and start walking slowly toward her, just holding that feeling.

See, nervousness is an energy. And energy that you contain will build power.

I didn’t move fast. I didn’t flinch. I didn’t shake or twitch or smile or laugh. I just walked up slowly, and stood in front of her until she looked up, and said, simply, slowly,

“I was just about to leave, and I noticed you here. I had to come meet you.”

“I’m Lance. May I join you?”

Now just guess what happened when I did this.

Did everyone in the library see what was happening? Yes.

Did I feel nervous knowing that pressure was really on? Yes.

Did she laugh or point at me or say “go away, creep?”

Never.

In fact, once I had been doing this a while, I found that a full 50% of the girls I approached in this way met me for a date.

That’s right. 50%.

I know a lot of great salesman, and I’ll tell you, any of them would kill their mothers to get a close rate of 50%.

It took me a while to figure out what was happening, and even longer to figure out how to teach it, but after talking to guys who knew the real deal with chicas I got it.

See, when you approach this way in the most unlikely of places, you shock the hell out of her.

You do more than catch her off guard. You make a dream she’s dreamed her whole life come true.

When you confidently tell her that there is something about her that you just have to know about, something special in her that you don’t see in other people, it makes her think one thing.

“Finally, it’s happening to me.”

She will invite you to sit. She will want to know about you. She’ll want to know who you are. She knows you are confident (or you wouldn’t have the big stones to do that!)

She knows you understand women.

Now she wants to know who you really are. And once a woman’s curiosity is piqued, getting the date is as easy as, well, checking a book out of the library.

This is the Movie Moment. This is the heart of the Natural Game taught at Art of Rapport and Daygame workshops all around the world:

http://pickup101.com/members/daygame

This is what it’s all about. You become the sexual, potent, confident man she’s been waiting for literally since she was a little girl, and you make her melt with just a few words.

It’s so powerful, you create attraction and rapport in SECONDS.

Once you have that, all that’s left to do is sit and have a friendly lil’ chat, and get the annoying details of setting that great first date.

You know how the movie ends, and you’ve both been waiting too long.

Now go meet some women!

Your friend,
Lance Mason